20 Things I've Learned In 20 Years

Hi Guys and welcome to another Blog post!

As it was my birthday on Monday, I thought I would share some of the things that I have learned throughout my childhood and teenage years. As you get older, you realise more and more how important it is to enjoy life and that there will be bumps in the road. 

1/2) My first two lessons kind of go together. 1) You don't need a whole bunch of friends, just a handful of people who will truly look out for you. And 2) Popularity does not matter. When I was at school it was all about popularity. I always wanted to be friends with the 'popular kids.' Now, looking back, I wish I'd have realised that having a few true friends is better than a whole load of fake ones.

3) If you want something in life, you can do it. I have never been one to give up and I'm so glad that I didn't. Whenever you feel like you're not getting anywhere, or in fact you are going backwards, keep pushing forwards. Sometimes you have to take the wrong turning to reach your destination but you still get there, even if it takes you that little bit longer.

4) Other peoples opinions are irrelevant (to a certain extent!) Obviously I'm not saying to disregard everything anybody else says to you, but if people are being negative just try and take it with a pinch of salt. Only you truly know what makes you happy and where you want to be, don't let anybody try to change your mind.

5) Don't try too hard with someone. Some people just won't want to be your friend and that's okay! If you waste your time trying to make someone like you, you will just get yourself down and start thinking it's you. I have always been a person who wants to be liked by everyone. I wish that I had just brushed it off and moved on. I wasted way too much time worrying about why people did not get on with me.

6) Spend time with your family. You don't realise how quickly time goes until you look back. Put your phone down, come out of your room and talk to your family. Ask them how their day was. You never know what is around the corner and once time is gone, it's gone. As much as I would like to be able to turn back time, unfortunately it's not that simple. 

7) Make the most out of a bad situation. We always tend to focus on the negatives, but try to find the positive in every scenario, even if you really have to look for it. 

8) You don't truly know anybody. I always thought that I knew who my friends were, but since leaving school I have realised that I didn't have a clue. Know exactly where you stand and then you can't be disappointed.

9) Trying your best is all you can do. We all know that feeling when you come out of an exam thinking about how horribly it went. But ask yourself, "Did I do my best? Did I give it everything?" If the answer to those questions is yes, then that's all anybody can ask of you.

10) Time is a great healer. If you are going through a break-up or a falling out with a friend, there is nothing better than time. I know everybody tells you this and I did't believe it when I was told either. Having gone through both of these experiences, I can tell you that it's true. It may take a few weeks, months or even years, but I promise you it will get better.

11) Life isn't all about money. When I was a child all I wanted was to be rich and famous. Now that I am older, I realise that that money is not everything. 

12) Life doesn't follow a plan. I always had this plan of exactly how my life would look, but as I grew up I found out that unexpected things pop up and you change your path. 

13) Take each day as it comes. You can't see what is going to happen in the future and you can't change what has happened in the past. There is no point in wasting time worrying about things out of your control. Live life in the moment and don't look back, only to see how far you have come.

14) Don't let your past affect your future. Like I have just mentioned above, you can't change the past. Keep looking ahead.

15) Work hard. A good career or University degree doesn't just happen on its own, you have to work for it. Even when it all seems too much and you start to doubt your decisions, keep pushing through because it will be worth it in the end.

16) Don't follow the crowd. Stick to what you feel comfortable with and don't just do something because everybody else is doing it. Stand your ground. Remember it is okay to say no.

17) Make amends. If you fall out with someone, make the best effort you can to make it up with them. You do not have to become the best of friends, just tell them how you feel and be civil. Otherwise you will go about your whole life in regret and avoiding that person.

18) Don't compare yourself to others. Whether that is your height, weight or academic success, everybody is different. Just be the best version of yourself.

19) Grades aren't everything. I always used to be so worried about my grades throughout my school years. Since leaving school, I have realised that it's not all about the grades that you achieve. That's not to say you should just give up on your academics. Please don't do that! Obviously grades are important, but they are just another step in your career. Employers look at more than just writing on paper, so don't give up just because you didn't achieve straight A's.

20) Sometimes you have to put yourself first. I am not a selfish person and I always try to think of others before myself. However, don't be afraid to be a little bit selfish now and again. Everybody needs some time for themselves.

Wow, I didn't realise quite how deep that was going to get! This ended up being a pretty lengthy upload and if you are reading this right now, I am very impressed and thank you for reading to the end. I hope you have enjoyed this post and have taken some of the points on board. Subscribe and head over to my social media, which will be linked below as always, so that you never miss a new post.

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